Raise a Positive Thinking Child in 5 Simple Ways
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I am a very optimistic person, and, as a parent, I want my son to see the world in a positive way too. Unfortunately, at times, he struggles with this as he sees the glass half empty. For example, he might have an amazing report card and negatively concentrate on the lowest grade or teacher’s remarks for areas needing improvement. Or in a soccer game, where he played wonderful, he would focus on the only bad shot he made. So, how do we raise a positive thinking child? It is hard for me to understand why he gets so frustrated over these little, meaningless episodes. Instead, he should be celebrating all the great things happening to him everyday. Right?
Maybe in some involuntary way, we parents, teachers, coaches etc. influence children’s negative self talk. With our own frustrations, complaints and judgements, we might model a negative world outlook, perceived by our kids.
I tried to follow some simple strategies to help him see the best in any situation and tune out some of the negativity. Here are my tips for raising a positive thinking child.
WORK ON OUR POSITIVITY
First of all, we need to work on ourselves. If we tend to be negatively judgmental and nag about any little thing that goes wrong, then we need to set a better example. We may be showing our children the wrong attitude towards the real world. Let’s try to refrain and don’t sweat the small things. Maybe sometimes we really need to bite our tongue
POSITIVE LANGUAGE & REFRAME BAD OCCURANCES
The way we speak strongly affects our children. We want to raise positive thinking children, therefore supportive language is essential. Praise and encouraging talks are very useful. I try very hard to always highlight the positives, in order to let the negatives fade away. I’m not saying we can’t speak about bad occurrences. We can discuss and use them to extract a positive life lesson for the future.
DONT SET YOUR CHILD UP FOR FAILURE
Of course we have great expectations for our children, but sometimes they are unrealistic. We want our kids to be the best at everything, from school to sports. We push them so hard that sometimes burnout is inevitable. Our children may feel like they disappointed us sometimes and spiral in negative self talk. We want to encourage them to succeed within their capabilities while reinforcing a positive outlook.
LIST 5 POSITIVES EVERYDAY
This was suggested to me by my son’s 5th grade teacher. It was a great idea! He told me to find a time during the day where I could talk to my son about his school day and 5 positive things that had happened. So every day on our 15 minute walk home from school, I would ask. His teacher also advised that I encouraged to elaborate on those 5 anecdotes. This process helps your child to reanalyze the day with an “only positive” filter.
POSITIVE AFFECTION & ACTIONS
Positive language and prospective go a long way in raising a positive thinking child, but actions take the concept to another level. Hugs, nurturing touches and also a smile with positive body language can erase negativity.
These simple tips have helped my child see the glass half full more often. He can perceive the bright side even in some negative situations and think about the future optimistically.
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